I'm honestly not sure. It probably did help.
So maybe, but more than that, I think its her personality that removes any sort of perceived impediment to remaining friends. He and I were very solid friends before his wife came along. Some of the longevity of our friendship can be attributed to the ages at which we met, the fact that we were housemates, etc. I think we are part of each other's life stories (i.e., I was finding my footing in my career, he was pursuing becoming a fireman [he's now a chief]) and we've each been part of that life story through several romantic partners. He dated an exotic dancer for a while and she was a lot of things..., the most flattering adjective I'll use in this forum is BENDY. :) but downright bizarre too...
I was already part of the landscape when his wife came along and she and I determined we liked each other very naturally and easily. I doubt she ever had a single reservation about me, but I could ask her. I was one of a core group of his friends from her perspective and happened to live in the same house. I didn't specifically make it a goal to get to know her. I couldn't help doing it because she was and is wonderful. It has been 22 years. I love them both dearly. She had children from a previous marriage and this year I watched him do the father/daughter dance at his [for all intents and purposes] daughter's wedding. I was a sobbing mess because it was so sweet. SDHOKIE had to whip out the hanky. I think it affected me so much because these days (I lost both parents within 1 year), I'm so much more introspective about aging and 'how far we have come'. As a result, I value those long-term relationships more than I ever did before.
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