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AbsolutVT03

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First of all I am sorry about your daughter. With that said I believe your


post and anger is misplaced. Why does your daughter matter more than someone's grandma? Is their pain and grief not as meaningful or real as yours? If this virus was killing young people as opposed to older ones would you have the same attitude? What if it's someone's mother instead of their grandmother?

I'm sure it's hard for you to see your daughter struggle with this. But lashing out at other people who have suffered but in different ways is not the answer. They're not your enemy and they're not to blame. Same thing for the "militant isolationists" remark. I imagine you would not appreciate others telling you how to parent your daughter during this so why do it to someone else?

Everyone is struggling. Their struggle is not less than yours simply because it's not yours. And everyone approaches these struggles differently. For me personally, trying to blame someone is just not productive. Most people (regardless of station) are simply trying to get through this the best that they can.

I'm not here to say your pain or your daughter's struggles are easier or harder than mine or the person who has lost loved ones or the person who has lost his job. You can empathize with others while still wanting to help your daughter. Getting her someone to talk to is a great idea. Someone below suggested a job or volunteering as a social outlet. I think that's also a good suggestion. What I can't get behind is trying to blame others or act like their concerns aren't valid. That's simply misplaced and counterproductive b/c that negativity doesn't help you or her. If this whole thing has taught us anything it's that we need to be more compassionate even towards those we don't know. I don't pretend to have all the answers here but I don't think that comparing lives is the answer. Whether a person dies from suicide or COVID it's still a death and a person who had a family.

I do hope both you and your daughter both are able to figure out how to deal with all this better. I'm still struggling to figure it out myself if it makes any difference.

(In response to this post by Tafkam Hokie)

Posted: 01/28/2021 at 5:42PM


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