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Burruss Writer

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Kids do stupid things...


Yeah, he's vaping (smoking, drinking, etc.). Think back to what stupid things you did as a teenager.

If you really want to grab his attention, approach this from the lying perspective. Telling him you are disappointed in him lying to you about the vaping will be significantly more effective than telling him you are disappointed for simply vaping. Point out that you had confronted him multiple times finding the pods in his room and that you are loosing trust in your relationship with him. I suspect that if he is indeed the upstanding young man that you say he is, he will come clean about it and that's the point you have a Mano-e-Mano discussion about this. But he has to know it's the lying that's the big issue here.

I've told all my kid's that it's the lying after the behavior is discovered that is more hurtful to our relationship. If you get caught, don't lie, take your lumps and move on. If you lie about it, you are damaging your relationship and showing that it is not as important than whatever transgression they have perpetrated.

(In response to this post by WestyHokie)

Posted: 08/20/2019 at 2:28PM



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Lounge Parenting Advice? Almost 18yo son is vaping -- WestyHokie 08/20/2019 08:41AM
  You might show him this article: -- TechMomof2 08/23/2019 11:13AM
  Hey Westy -- North Main Hokie 08/21/2019 10:12PM
  In two months you don't get a vote anymore.... -- Naelbis 08/20/2019 8:25PM
  Kids do stupid things... -- Burruss Writer 08/20/2019 2:28PM
  The denial is designed to get you to drop it -- One4VT 08/20/2019 10:11AM
  You know this but lying is a bigger deal than vaping -- typed by ben 08/20/2019 10:08AM
  Yep, that's what bugs me most; addiction behavior IMO -- WestyHokie 08/20/2019 10:29AM
  What did she quit? ** -- Technocrat 08/20/2019 12:02PM
  SHUN ** -- darnellm 08/20/2019 09:51AM
  ...here you go... -- chumley 08/20/2019 09:59AM
  Relax...it may not be nicotine vape at all -- JoesterVT 08/20/2019 09:29AM
  No Juul products are nicotine free... -- Burruss Writer 08/20/2019 2:16PM
  Absolutely ** -- BG Hokie 08/20/2019 09:06AM
  Some sort of intervention (inside) -- FfxStationHokie 08/20/2019 08:50AM
  Parenting Advice 101.. BE THE PARENT -- darnellm 08/20/2019 08:47AM
  I don't think it is -- HokieMacDaddy 08/20/2019 09:35AM

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