This doesn’t help you with your dad, but...

I’m in my 60s. I want my 30-something only child to feel as little guilt as possible during my elder years. Since he was a teenager, I’ve made sure he knows a couple key phrases: ”put me in a facility” rather than struggle to keep me at home, and “pull the plug” when the time arises. I don’t want him to struggle to keep my house running when I cannot. And I pray I’ll have plenty of money to pay for my upkeep. I’ve never minded getting older until recently, and I’ll admit that the future can be a pretty scary thing.

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Posted: 03/11/2018 at 8:49PM

Have a question about Home Health Care. We are paying way too much-> -- HOKIERIT 03/11/2018 12:12PM

Prayers for your dad, all who love him and care for him ** -- Thankful Hokie 03/12/2018 08:30AM

Went thru this last yearvwith my mom. Keep in mind that $22/hr -- 133743Hokie 03/12/2018 02:26AM

Thanks..good point. That helps ** -- HOKIERIT 03/12/2018 08:08AM

We went through that with my mother...very hard. -- Newt 03/12/2018 12:50AM

Thanks you very much Newt. I see a lot of my situarion in what you say. -> -- HOKIERIT 03/12/2018 08:15AM

This doesn’t help you with your dad, but... -- Mama Goose 03/11/2018 8:49PM

Agree totally. And I have said the same to my kids. ** -- GFallsFan 03/12/2018 11:10AM

This is what my parents have said -- Thankful Hokie 03/12/2018 08:29AM

For my parents, they had the same philosophy. -- Guy LeDouche 03/12/2018 08:39AM

When did that change of mind occur? How old were they? -- Thankful Hokie 03/12/2018 6:01PM

You can find sitters but it takes a lot of effort. Place an add on line at -- Hokebury 03/11/2018 5:15PM

My father (a Hokie) is in the same boat and our experiences are similar. -- Guy LeDouche 03/11/2018 5:04PM

Thanks for the info man. I have a lot to learn and this helps ** -- HOKIERIT 03/11/2018 6:09PM

The big problem is the wandering off since he's mobile -- lchoro 03/11/2018 4:56PM

My dad is same situation and finally made decision -- One4VT 03/11/2018 2:25PM

Right now, although expensive and tough on us, it's best to keep him-. -- HOKIERIT 03/11/2018 2:35PM

I get it. As long as you think its right decision. -- One4VT 03/11/2018 2:42PM

Well..we DO have to keep an eye on that. He is fine at home as long as-> -- HOKIERIT 03/11/2018 4:03PM

Sorry Rit -- HokiesBill48 03/11/2018 1:25PM

Thanks..I think that IS the answer..that there's no good answer. Thoughts-> -- HOKIERIT 03/11/2018 2:07PM

Have you looked at Medicaid? -- Nova Hokie 95 03/11/2018 12:52PM

Thanks.I actually have an appt with an elder care attorney about their -> -- HOKIERIT 03/11/2018 2:09PM

I don’t believe a trust counts toward Medicaid -- Nova Hokie 95 03/11/2018 3:20PM

I will DEFINITELY ask the lawyer all about it..that;'s great advice! Thanks ** -- HOKIERIT 03/11/2018 3:59PM

Sitters -- Techer 03/11/2018 12:44PM

GREAT idea and i never considered thatHe's led a good life and deserves> -- HOKIERIT 03/11/2018 2:12PM

^^^This. I know several, but the commute would be a bit much from Lynchburg ** -- thankbud 03/11/2018 2:10PM

Yeah...but I didn't know it was an option. Thank tyou guys for the -> -- HOKIERIT 03/11/2018 2:14PM

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