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Guess I'm the weird one. I never missed more than a few hours of work for

a dead grandparent.

I was three when my maternal grandfather died.

My maternal grandmother died when I was 25. I went to the parlor viewing on a Friday evening, only missed a couple of hours of work as she lived and died only an hour away. We buried her that Sunday.

My paternal grandfather went next, three years later. There was a memorial service followed by a "celebration of his life," all in one afternoon in the same city in which I live. I only missed a few hours of work.

Finally, my paternal grandmother passed, several years after Alzheimer's had taken her mind. I went to the Memorial Service, pretty sure it was a Friday afternoon, and I was back at work on Monday.

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Posted: 05/18/2018 at 08:51AM

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What is appropriate time for bereavement leave from a job? -- 48zip 05/18/2018 08:16AM

I took two weeks when my father passed away. -- Hokie360 05/18/2018 11:44AM

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Indeed! ** -- HOKIERIT 05/18/2018 11:13AM

My 2 cents (inside) -- FfxStationHokie 05/18/2018 10:42AM

And that's another issue. No policy. I asked the owner this morning -- 48zip 05/18/2018 10:53AM

Thanks to all for your input and advice. Very much appreciated. -- 48zip 05/18/2018 10:23AM

The 3 days between passing and funeral. ** -- hoosnowahokie 05/18/2018 10:21AM

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WOW..that is generous ** -- HOKIERIT 05/18/2018 11:04AM

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I've seen 3. -- halesvb11 05/18/2018 09:20AM

Guess I'm the weird one. I never missed more than a few hours of work for -- Hokie CPA 05/18/2018 08:51AM

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That's more like what I've done. I've been lucky in that I've never had -- 48zip 05/18/2018 09:09AM

On the other hand, I was gone for 4 days when my wife's father passed. -- Hokie CPA 05/18/2018 08:55AM

I'd give 2 days, and then allow them as much of their earned leave as -- CochraneResident 05/18/2018 08:46AM

How do you schedule work to meet previously arranged deadlines? -- 48zip 05/18/2018 08:48AM

I've never been a situation where it was life or death to get something -- CochraneResident 05/18/2018 09:11AM

Generally I agree, but is it a 24/7 thing? -- 48zip 05/18/2018 09:17AM

Haha. Well, you were withholding info there. Obviously has to be well -- CochraneResident 05/18/2018 09:31AM

Yeah, that's the lesson I learned. ** -- 48zip 05/18/2018 09:40AM

A post-funeral phone call is justified. -- TomTurkey 05/18/2018 10:21AM

A day or two. ** -- reestuart 05/18/2018 08:43AM

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It also means a stop by the office isn't as hard as a long distance trip. -- 48zip 05/18/2018 12:34PM

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For a grandparent? -- Stork 05/18/2018 08:20AM

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Grieve ** -- BRVT 05/18/2018 08:34AM

A follow up, not meaning to sound harsh here. -- 48zip 05/18/2018 08:47AM

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Bingo. ** -- 48zip 05/18/2018 12:30PM

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Couldn't agree more. Family is top priority. -- 48zip 05/18/2018 09:50AM

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Yep. I said this above. I spoke with the owner this morning. -- 48zip 05/18/2018 10:55AM

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He has struggled. This hasn't changed my opinion of him. -- 48zip 05/18/2018 12:29PM

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THAT'S the key word. Dedication. -- 48zip 05/18/2018 09:24AM

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So, the employer/client matters more than your grandparent? Dude, this -- CochraneResident 05/18/2018 09:34AM

That isn't what I said at all. Don't jump on my ass. The whole point -- 48zip 05/18/2018 09:46AM

My apologies. Didn't mean to lecture. Just giving another side, and -- CochraneResident 05/18/2018 10:24AM

Thanks. None needed. again, a difficult subject. Thanks for the input. ** -- 48zip 05/18/2018 10:50AM

Yep. Not a battle you can win or even should fight. ** -- CPRVHokie 05/18/2018 09:44AM

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