and I'm not specifically bashing millennials...but if you are of the typical older demographic here your parents likely had/have at least a vague recollection of the end of the depression/WWII era (Those whose parents are approximately 80 years old that had kids in their 20's). The alternative to missing a few days of work and not keeping a job could easily have been soup lines or worse. That thought process is often passed down, even almost unconsciously.

Today the alternative is usually a lot less drastic - not that it isn't stressful.

In other words, I think some people in the past would have liked to grieve more, they just couldn't afford to without it possibly affecting their survival, so it wasn't even an option they considered.

The further we get from people actually starving in the street (I don't mean sometimes hungry, in shelters or other truly needy - I mean starving) the more likely that those that are a little more successful will have options that allow them to miss work for personal reasons without fear of survival - even if it means changing jobs.

The split between dedication to your job and family is a very personal thing and all make different choices - and live with the consequences of those choices based on the time period in which they live. I do agree those choices need to be effectively communicated.