As a military brat I think they should hold off tying the knot...
At least until he finishes at least one stretch that takes him away from her for 3-4 months. If he is Navy he is going to be gone 6 months of every year, Army he is looking at 18 month deployments (depending on MOS) and stationing in Korea with no dependents allowed for at least 1 year. AF is better but he will still TDY for 4-6 months every couple of years.
If they rush it and she is not ready things will get dicey quick when she finds herself sitting in base housing thousands of miles away from anyone and everything she knows all alone for months on end. Plus as an officer's wife there will be behavioral expectations and responsibilities for her that will reflect directly on his career. It is not an easy life by any means.
That being said, you should tell her "this is what concerns me but I will fully support what you decide" and make sure that she knows you just want her to be happy. Under no circumstances should you treat the fiance in any way other than welcoming and respectful. That way you don't alienate her and she knows she has a fall back if it blows up in her face.
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In response to this post by Full-Set and Moonshine)
Posted: 12/30/2018 at 4:50PM