Here is a view from a strong willed kid who often went opposite parents
It sounds like she is probably around 20ish years old. So remembering how I was at that time it can be tricky with parents.
I knew my parents were smart and respected their opinions, but I also knew that their life experiences and motivations were very different from mine. So there were times that no matter how practical and good their advice might have been, if it conflicted with my core motivations and interests then it was easy to dismiss them (parents just don’t understand).
And here I am 20 years later and some of that is still true. I just have very different priorities and interests and risk taking than my parents. But what did change was when they stopped talking and started to ask more questions. Basically the classic switch to treating me as an adult while also still being my protective parents.
So my one piece of advice would be what I would tell either of my girls (when they are older). Have an adult conversation where you explain to her your perspective about the logical school stuff/marriage stuff and also the emotional concerns about the engagement and her future. As a kid I knew my parents cared but I didn’t understand it. Help her to understand your view. It won’t change her mind but it will help her keep you in mind and to think about more things as these big decisions play out over the next year.
If that doesn’t work then I suggest drinking heavily.
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Posted: 12/30/2018 at 8:35PM