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Lounge Advice: Dads with soccer-playing young teen daughters


And get your mind out of the gutter, some of you.

Our 13yo daughter has played for years on the highest level team for her age in the state, ranked nationally. I say this only because her coach is a serious coach and the club is very competitive.

Anyway, last week in practice, two teammates stepped on our daughter's left big toe and broke it. Doc said no activity for a week, but no cast. Just wearing an open boot.

Tomorrow, her team leaves for an out-of-state tournament. And her coach has been texting us every day since the injury, asking if our daughter is OK, and then whether she will play in the tournament. Once the coach heard what the injury was, her response was that she had had a broken toe in her playing days, and you can play on it, you just have to tape it up.

Our daughter, for her part, wants to go to the tournament but isn't sure how much she can play or how to handle her aggressive coach. And this is the first tournament where we are not going with our daughter. More of the girls are traveling as a team with the coach, with only a few parents, and so we won't be there if she goes.

So we see a doc this afternoon for a final verdict. If the doc says that no more damage will be done if our daughter plays, it's basically pain management, does she go? What if the pain is worse while at the tournament, or she hurts something else, or her arthritis (yep, 13yo with arthritis) becomes an issue and the coach rides her and we're not there? We know a few of the parents OK who are going, and could ask one to keep an eye on it, but that's an awkward position really for that parent. And our daughter says she can handle it, and then tears up and says she is worried about what her coach may say or that she might embarrass her in front of her teammates if our daughter decides it's too much. 13 is a tough age.

Any advice? The coach isn't an ogre, but she is very competitive and has been known to yell and sometimes say mean things to the girls. So we know that already. It's just we've always been around if something were to go south. BTW, our daughter has had 2 concussions, a broken toe on the other foot and a broken finger the past two years, in addition to overuse issues and her arthritis. So she is a tough kid.

[Post edited by WestyHokie at 11/14/2018 09:58AM]

Posted: 11/14/2018 at 09:57AM


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  Lounge Advice: Dads with soccer-playing young teen daughters -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 09:57AM
  Doc verdict: As expected, it “could” make it worse, “prob” no LT damage -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 6:08PM
  Don't play her. -- Chris Coleman  11/14/2018 4:09PM
  You have to ask yourself why? -- Vienna_Hokie 11/14/2018 1:42PM
  I'd be more worried about another concussion if she's already had two. -- Hokie360 11/14/2018 1:13PM
  Agry - if she gets a 3rd were having the... -- JoesterVT 11/14/2018 2:05PM
  Listen to the doc. Ask the doc whether she could take pain meds & play? -- Hoakie82 11/14/2018 1:03PM
  Listen to the doctor, he has your daughter's best interest at heart.... -- BusLoadaBozos 11/14/2018 12:46PM
  1. All good coaches yell and say mean things...occasionally 2. If doc gives -- CPRVHokie 11/14/2018 12:43PM
  Coach just wants to win. Sounds like your daughter is scholarship good -- HokieAl 11/14/2018 12:42PM
  Don't let her play. There will be umpteen million more tournaments. Her -- knuckle junction 11/14/2018 12:24PM
  Skip it - just 13 the issue is risk and reward ... -- DaveVT 11/14/2018 12:23PM
  Does the doc want to start her on an opioid regiment? -- EDGEMAN 11/14/2018 12:21PM
  You want us to run a #6 on the coach?...seriously though... -- Major Kong 11/14/2018 11:59AM
  #6? #6? I'm afraid I'm not familiar with that one. ** -- Spud 11/14/2018 12:00PM
  Well it isn't too Jewish. 😊 ** -- Major Kong 11/14/2018 12:06PM
  A #6... -- Major Kong 11/14/2018 12:02PM
  "I'm not helping my team if I am hurt" ... I like the 'test it out' idea... -- hokiegoatzz 11/14/2018 11:39AM
  "Doc said no activity for a week" -- Manbearpig 11/14/2018 11:38AM
  ^^ loses points for not reading the post ^^ -- JoesterVT 11/14/2018 11:48AM
  That week ended today, so getting final opinion this afternoon ** -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 11:39AM
  My kids play sports, I played soccer at a high level. -- Betabeachbum 11/14/2018 11:36AM
  Had to deal with similar situation with son. Just say no. -- MontyPythokie 11/14/2018 11:23AM
  They have had 5 out-of-state tournaments since August -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 11:42AM
  I'd tell the coach to suck it. No reason for her to guilt your daughter -- reestuart 11/14/2018 11:04AM
  Definitely a tough spot, some other thoughts -- Dan1993 11/14/2018 10:56AM
  This Ashley's mom is really popular ** -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 11:44AM
  First image when I searched for "Ashley's Mom" -- Late 80s Hokie 11/14/2018 12:14PM
  All your weight goes over your big toe -- `lag 11/14/2018 10:46AM
  I remember Rodgers doing that, and I laughed then, too -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 10:50AM
  If you're out there George, my apologies! ** -- `lag 11/14/2018 11:02AM
  Some grate pics on his twitter page (link) -- 48zip 11/14/2018 11:14AM
  Different sport- similar experience -- bigbadbird 11/14/2018 10:39AM
  Coach should not be putting that kind of pressure on a 13 year old -- turkeywinghokie 11/14/2018 10:33AM
  Agree, soccer is out of hand now -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 10:43AM
  Treat it like concussion protocol. Time. -- TomTurkey 11/14/2018 10:30AM
  Is the coach hot? ** -- vthhhi 11/14/2018 10:28AM
  Probably not to you, or most of us here ... she fits the stereotype ** -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 10:44AM
  Shun ** -- 48zip 11/14/2018 11:03AM
  Too tall, but close -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 11:57AM
  My concern would be favoring -- CDTaylor 11/14/2018 10:23AM
  What are the consequences if she doesn't go? What are they if she -- hoosnowahokie 11/14/2018 10:21AM
  Mostly she feels she let her team down; this is her last year on this team -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 10:46AM
  She's needs you to make a decision so it's not her decision- be the bad guy -- bigbadbird 11/14/2018 11:09AM
  So she has no dreams of soccer beyond high school? -- Nova Hokie 95 11/14/2018 10:49AM
  Her HS team is pretty good, so that change doesn't mean no future -- WestyHokie 11/14/2018 10:53AM
  Sounds exactly like my wife -- hoosnowahokie 11/14/2018 11:04AM
  ^^^This ** -- TomTurkey 11/14/2018 10:51AM
  What?! Don't let her go. That game is for a weekend, her foot is forever -- HokieSignGuy 11/14/2018 10:15AM
  Oh, and I really meant, don't let her play -- HokieSignGuy 11/14/2018 10:17AM
  IF the doctor says it's okay and just pain management ... -- Nova Hokie 95 11/14/2018 10:13AM
  ^^^ This ^^^ ** -- BTHokie 11/14/2018 10:16AM
  This is a good middle-ground. ** -- HokieSignGuy 11/14/2018 10:18AM
  Ashley's mom shun. ** -- vt90 11/14/2018 10:15AM
  Your 1st sentence is spot on, although I was thinking more about soccer -- Brown Water 11/14/2018 10:06AM
  I stopped reading after the first sentence. What's the topic? ** -- 48zip 11/14/2018 11:04AM
  Agree ... -- vt90 11/14/2018 10:15AM
  I think you are assuming the coach is not an idiot -- bigbadbird 11/14/2018 10:30AM
  No you don't go- her toe is broken- be an adult ** -- bigbadbird 11/14/2018 10:00AM

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